The below is the post I wrote for Jessica Downey on “All The Single Ladies” in Chicago. Jessica is a self confessed serial single girl, and her website will give you the lowdown on single life and dating in Chicago. Even if you don’t live in Chicago, it is full of great advice and insights for the modern single woman.

Without further adoo, here is an excerpt from my guest post for Jessica:

“Petrified of being alone, some women jump straight from one relationship to another, without taking the time they need to heal. The problem with being a “relationship slut” is that you end up hauling baggage with you and inevitably dumping it on the next person.

Inevitably, if you haven’t worked through your relationship issues, you will just keep repeating them with other people. It’s like you are trying to put your foot down on the accelerator to escape the pain of the last relationship, but you have a trailer full of junk that is weighing you down, and the wheels are just spinning in the dirt and you are going nowhere fast.”

Click here to read the full article (go on, you know you want to)