THINGS THAT SHIT ME: MAY
When my stockings keep falling down and I have to spend all day tugging at them to hitch them back up – second in annoyance only to the wayward bra strap.
Running for the train and watching it pull away just as you get to the door (even better when all the passengers on the train have watched you frantically pushing the button on the door, but the train still decides to pull away). Only surpassable by actually walking to the station and discovering that you’ve left your purse at home and have to turn around, walk back home and then walk back to the station again (my fate last night as I headed to a new product launch – my super straight hair did not appreciate the quickened pace as I half ran half walked in my wedged heels to get there and back in time).
People who are positive ALL of the time. Please don’t get me wrong, because I am a super positive person MOST of the time and I avoid overly negative people and situations. However, it’s not real to pretend to be positive all of the time, when in fact things are crap. It’s as though it has become a crime to admit you’re having a bad day, and there is a pressure to pretend things are otherwise, which can be quite an exhausting facade to keep up. Life isn’t always sunshine and lollipops. When you give yourself permission to be in a bad mood or feel down for a day, you will find that your natural optimism returns a whole lot quicker.
My mobile phone will continually vibrate and make a noise every 15 minutes until I check my messages – actually it is taunting me right now from the living room. If I wanted to get up and check my messages I would god damn it! I swear I am ready to throw it out the window!
Air kissing, shallow and self absorbed people who are successful but lacking in real talent. Especially when most do not see through the facade. Gggggrrr.
People who place unrealistic expectations on you and then go all passive aggressive on you when you say no.
What’s annoying you right now?
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Great post! Annoying me right now are people at work that just don’t care about a project as much as I do. I can’t understand it because I care so much.
Carla – tell me more about your project
Sister Gaynor you are preaching the truth! Pass the plate and get my tambourine, I feel like shoutin’ now.
Jennifer – Hallelujah. Praise the Lord!
Annoying me right now – best friend has new boyfriend. Spends every waking moment she can with him, but then gets the shits with me when the one day he is away and she can’t be with him, I’m not available, even though she only calls to inform me halfway through that day itself. But When I need her she is always to busy with him. Ha ha.
Tilly – nothing shits me more than a girlfriend breaking the unwritten and sacred friendship code ‘thou shall not ditch friend for boyfriend’. I’ve seen it in action – I remember a friend once responding to my email asking her to go to a movie, saying that her boyfriend was going out and going to the movies sounded like the next best thing. Hmmm. No deal.
Hoorah for stating all of these. I am fed up with people who dont read instructions then ask stupid questions. Completely over those who think its okay to lie about their qualifications, dont pay their invoices on time, and put their handout for free everything. I am upset by people of dubious character who waste your time trying to sell you bulls*** because they think you are a naive and stupid woman and therefore a soft target >:( Whats completely aggravating about the last is that glimmer of hope in their initial offer until you witness the garbage spewing from their mouths and adding up the telling signs and feel the crushing weight of a con in action -Its been a tough month but I am proud of saying no and not buying into any of it but it is tiring. Its definitely time to put on the bitchface
Thanks for letting me vent.
Emma darling – I have the perfect mantra for you. Who the f**k do you think you are, and who the f**k do you think you’re dealing with? … it’s been well used over the years and never fails to work its magic when I silently repeat it to myself when dealing with people who fail to respect the goods. Vent away – it’s a monthly post
I think its cathartic to have a vent every now and then, before getting back on the horse 
Thank goodness for someone else who understands that crap about expectations. Sometimes when i’m talking to a friend that is behaving like that, I just want to punch something and I feel gross afterwards. Hey – Gaynor – tell us how you deal w/ the passive aggressive BS and the expectations that were unreasonable in the first place, would ya? Love to hear what you have to say. I’m still working on it.
Sarah – you’ve inspired a post! I will write a response about managing expectations and passive aggressiveness (that old nutshell)
One of the things that has been shitting me for a while now are people who contradict themselves. Also known as: the friend that believes you should stand up for yourself and what you believe in, no matter what, then when you decide to actually stick up for yourself, they shut you down. And hard. So, it’s all good and well for them to preach this theory to others but can’t take it when they are the ones receiving this behaviour? Tell me how that is fair?
And thank you for putting it out there and recognising that it is not a crime to admit that you’re having a bad day and that you are not, in fact, miss positive everyday of the week. Because in the real world, amongst hurdles, setbacks, conflicts and challenges it is just not possible to be smiling throughout. I too acknowledge bad days and allow myself to feel down for a while but also acknowledge that there will be good days too. It’s certainly not natural to feel on top of the world every day. If there is a way, someone please let me know!
Shez – That’s not fair at all, nor is it good form from your friend! Geese and ganders and all that
Unfortunately come people always have to be right and in control – which can be a very disempowering dynamic in friendship. I also love that saying, you can’t have the pearl without the grit – puts things in perspective in relation to the good and the bad 
Yet another great piece Gaynor
hmmm shitting me at the moment is actually myself – my own lack of balls and assertiveness to be able to deal with life’s little problems without talking them into being a lot bigger than they are; thus leading to stress, pimples and the problems still being unsolved. : I
Aaaah, so much to learn
Tegan darling, One of the most important things you will learn is to be gentle on yourself. It’s not easy being assertive – because everyone responds differently, and sometimes people can be quite aggressive which isn’t much fun. Keep practicing it, and keep building your self esteem so that you become more confident and not affected by other people’s responses to your assertiveness. You will get there – I promise. I’d give you a gold star, that’s for sure
I thought the stocking thing was just me
Am so so so happy to know it happens to someone else. Not in a mean way, am not happy you suffer too, am just happy I’m not the only one
He he-stupisstupidstupid stockings idiot little stupids rolling down
some people resort to wearing undies, then stockings, then more undies to hold them up
a fab solution
positive people
nada
stupid phone buzzing ad flashing
aaaaaaaarrrrrgggggghhhhhh
self absorbed-
GO AWAY
air kissing-
runs in my v., v., v., european family
and stuuuuuuuuuuupid passive aggresive idiots-
please, Gaynor, DONT GET ME STARTED!!!